The Mom Trap

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Take the path to Freedom

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Moms fix everything especially, when we are little tykes. Moms start by learning to anticipate all the needs of this wonder of life called a newborn or child you’ve adopted.

It’s chaotic. No matter how “prepared” you are for this new heir you still grow with this new love. It doesn’t matter how many kids you have already. Every new addition is different with different needs. I knew how to diaper and feed. But every two hours? 24/7? Really? Six and half years of sleep deprivation, Really! How does a morning bird raise night owls? I ask you!

You feed them. Train them in the spiritual, social and educational. You cry with their failures and celebrate their successes. Advice, fixing, and nurturing becomes habit. There springs the trap!

Mom’s everywhere forget to grow themselves. I find myself in the Mom Trap! It’s not a bad place to be. Except maybe for my princes and princesses. {Smile} They are probably, but will not admit it, sick of my meddling.

Here I am stuck in the sandwich generation. My kids need to find their own advice without mom’s meddling. {sigh} My dad doesn’t want advice from his silly little girl. How dare I interfere in his life and agree with his doctors. {grr} Then in prayer I get the message to be quiet and turn not to my own understanding [see Proverbs 3:5].

But Lord, I’ve been officially doing that for the last 28 years when I became a wife and stepmom. Fixing the boo boos of life, Dispensing advice whether people want it or not…Do you hear that chuckle?

I am struggling against the habits developed over 28 years. It is so hard to just listen and allow my princes and princesses to find their own solutions. That is how we truly grow. I find my own solutions through prayer and trusted advisers. Why wouldn’t my “kids” have their own thoughts, relationship with God, and trusted advisers.

A new growth path for me is to be a better mom that listens and gives my thoughts when asked. Wow! This will be a big change. But I feel the pull to a quieter existence. My mother’s day begins with a new resolve to be a grown-up mom.

A big Thank You to all the Mom’s in my life. And to all the Mom’s and kids out there may your Mom’s Day be blessed!

Milly

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5-6 NKJV

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